Dating During the Time of COVID-19
Imagine that you have just found the guy of your dreams. You’ve been on a handful of dates, and things have gone just swimmingly. He’s handsome, intelligent, and he makes you laugh. Not only that, but he makes you feel beautiful, inside and out, every time that you are together. You can’t wait to see him next.
But then reality strikes. Across the globe, stay-at-home orders have been made by leaders and lawmakers. Freedoms that we have experienced in the past are no longer what they were. We can’t go to restaurants or bars. We can’t go to museums, aquariums, or amusement parks. Even the malls and shopping centers have closed down.
With all of these closures and the need to keep ourselves healthy as we help to flatten the curve, it can sure make it difficult to continue with a new relationship. And the need to socially distance? How do you do that when the guy you met makes you swoon, and you can’t wait for that next kiss? With your own households and family circle of people that you need to be with every day, how can you safely continue this new relationship without jeopardizing your health and the health of others?
It’s quite the problem, isn’t it?
Tips to Keep the Chemistry of that New Relationship Alive During COVID-19The chances are that you won’t want to end this new relationship. And with so many of us having more time on our hands than we are used to, it would seem now is the perfect time to get to know this special someone a bit better. But how can you continue to build the chemistry when you can’t (or shouldn’t) be together in person? Here are two easy ways to keep the romance alive and build a closeness that will inevitably lead to some va-va-voom when you can reunite in person.
Use a video chat or live streaming service to keep conversations alive. There is something sexy about building a relationship and getting to know one another intellectually. Getting to know your new partner’s mind by taking the time to listen to desires, fears, and more can be incredibly satisfying and can bring you closer. Even eating a meal together at the same time, even if you are at opposite ends of the camera, can be an enjoyable experience. Take out your apron and a great bottle of wine and get cooking. And if talking isn’t enough, or a meal over video-chat won’t float your boat, well, get creative. It is a video service, after all. Your “ratings” are self-imposed.
Grab some lawn chairs and head to a park for a socially distanced picnic. When video conferencing isn’t enough, if your area permits small group gatherings, then this might be just the ticket for you. And if you are feeling adventurous, why not go on a hike together or just spend some time checking out nature.
Download some get-to-know-you quizzes to keep the conversation interestingWhichever method you use to keep your interactions going, put some planning into your conversations. Now is a great time to download some fun “get-to-know-you” quizzes. Ask questions about a variety of topics to keep your conversation interesting. Not sure what types of questions to ask? Here are some of our favorites:
Cutesy questions to reminisce on your initial encounters
- What was your first impression of me?
- If you had to change anything about our first date, what would it be?
- Why did you pick such-and-such place for our first date?
- If you could have taken me anywhere for a first date and cost or location was not a factor, where would it have been?
- What about our relationship so far makes you the happiest?
Serious questions to spark a deep discussion
- What are your goals for the future?
- If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be?
- What is your deepest fear?
- If you could write a book, what would it be about?
- Do you tend to follow your head or your heart when you make decisions? And why do you think that is?
Sexy questions to create some video sparks
- What’s the first thing you will do when you can touch me again?
- What is your favorite color on me?
- What is your favorite part of my body?
- Where do you like to be touched the most?
- Where would you like to make whoopie, if you could do it anywhere?
Pay attention to signals from your love interest
We’d be remiss if we didn’t provide some words of warning before you get too far with video dating. It’s important that you don’t feel pressured to share more than what you are comfortable with, over the web. Remember that these conversations are private, but not 100%. So don’t share more than you are ready to, and be aware of the consequences should your love interest not be as trustworthy as you believe him to be. And, if you do decide to go off hiking in the woods with your new beau, be sure to tell someone else where you are going and when you will be back. Remember, safety first, and romance second.